Are You Serious?? - Dysfunctional Feminity at work

So, this morning I was watching the Game around 3am. Brown Sugar (my favorite movie) had gone off and I didn't bother to turn the channel. I really wish I did turn the channel but I must say that toward the end of the shows my shift in character dislike/like changed. Everyone loves girl Melanie but I don't. I started to really like Janay and I wished she was permanent on the show. I'm not writing about that though. This morning it was about Melanie not understanding that Derwin was making arrangements for his child in case something happened for him. She thought she had to compete with a BABY and even asked him, "is this baby more important than me?" and he said "YES!!!" Good damn answer Derwin because this chick is outside her mind for real. If you are with someone and you have a child or he/she has a child, never allow anyone to make you choose between them and your child. If it comes to it, I pray everyone always choose their child. I am watching it right now because I needed more ammunition. On this episode, Melanie convinced Derwin to talk to Janay about having a pregnancy test in front of him. He did it! Then Melanie went to talk to her and Janay handled her business then while they were trying to have sex, (girl Melanie and Derwin) he couldn't get hard and the doorbell rang. It was someone with certified mail from Janay releasing Derwin from legal responsibility from his unborn child. Ole girl Melanie got excited and saying she got him out of the whole thing. HELLLO??????? Why would anyone want to be with a girl like that??? Bump the history that you may have with ole girl. I realize it may be hard if the man you love has a baby with someone else but you have to look at the big picture. If you two weren't together at the time and even more so, you two were in relationships with other people. So, to me, it makes everything null and void. You can't come into that relationship demanding stuff. Everyone is begging for BET to bring this show back but I really think people should reconsider it. It was wrong on so many levels. I would watch the show and cringe because people are already screwed up in the head but you don't need anything like this saying stuff is okay. I really feel a man or a woman should reconsider who they are marrying. You and that person may have a lot of history but if they start showing different sides and trying to compete with a child, maybe they aren't for you. If they are trying to compete with anything that is very important to you, maybe they aren't for you. I also mean God. If they have an issue with God and your relationship with Him, she/he is definitely not for you. It is hard to end it, but God does give you the strength to leave that relationship. My child is soo very important to me and I love her with all my heart. I'm also in love with a man with all my heart and I believe he would never make me choose between my daughter and him. He knows my child would be chosen. He would never do it because he has the sense God gave him and the training his parents gave him about things. I still watch the show because I do like watching Girl Melanie cry and whine about not being first. I like how Janay handles situations with class too. I've had my situations where I had to handle things with class and believe it or not, when you do, that ignorant person backs off. They feel silly. So, honestly people, if you are in a relationship with someone who has children, if you feel you should be more important and should be first, than dating someone with children isn't for you. You should remove yourself from the situation right now because you will never accept it. It is best now.