Friday, January 1, 2010

History repeats itself

I haven't had a meaningful relationship in nine years. My first two relationships I do not regret. Everything after that, I wish never happened. Although they gave me experience and lessons were learned, I'm wondering when will I have the chance again at something real. I am almost 28 years old and I feel I am travelling down the same road I was on a for the last three years. I don't know what it is about me that I attract guys who are looking for friends. I can respect wanting to be friends but when feelings are involved and I am still told that a relationship may not be possible, it sucks. I feel I give 110% in situations that aren't even relationships but friendships. I care a lot about people and although I feel this way, I still do it because I care. It's like I put my happiness on the back burner each time. The guys I meet are relationship challenged which means they have been burned so many times that by the time I meet them which is usually right after, they are not interested in anything. *sighs* I'm not depressed about it but I do wonder about it. I guess I should be more like these guys that I meet. Instead of me allowing what the last guy did to me go to give the next guy a fair chance, I won't be fair about it. I will assume all guys are the same until proven wrong. I would like that but that's not me so I won't do that I'm sure but it is a nice thought. Maybe it will eliminate a lot of the potential heartache. I was told to have faith that things will get better. I do but that person knows themselves that it's hard to feel they will when you have been burned time after time. I am still the one who is not benefiting from this but they are not in the same situation anymore. They have me to care, to understand to be there when venting is needed and I do it without hesitation each time. I pray for them and I respect them but to be totally honest, I don't think they really get it or get me. I may be wrong because I am feeling I am headed down the same road again and that history will repeat itself. There are some differences this time than there were last time that should have me thinking a little easier about things but I'm not. I want to be positive and to be honest, 95% of the time I am very positive and I am very happy and loving every minute of things but then it's the 5% of times that I am thinking and wondering what am I doing. I wonder if it is right. I pray to God about it and He gives me no indication that it's wrong. I pray he removes this fear that I have because I want to be totally strong and able to withstand whatever happens. I have faith that He will be give me that strength I need for this. I wish my daughter didn't have to go through these things but when you are hurt and have hard times, that's why makes you stronger so I can't say I want to deter her growth but I wish she could mature and become wiser without the pains and heartaches of life. My prayer is that I will tell her about my experiences and I will pray that History won't repeat. I am thinking I shouldn't post this because I don't want anyone in particular to take it the wrong way but I have to get it out to keep it from going left with them. I will say that I pray that this is only taken as me trying to do something to help myself relieve myself of how I am feeling and my fears.

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