Cheating: The Emotional side of it

In T.D. Jakes' movie "Not Easily Broken", the couple is dealing with a different form a cheating. He didn't sleep with anyone when he cheated but he had an emotional relationship with the woman. I thought it was a very good movie. It explored the side that many seem to forget when it comes to cheating. Cheating is bad no matter what type it is. It doesn't make one form better or now but in my opinion, one is more difficult to deal with than the other. When your significant other shares themselves with someone in an emotional way, it hurts. They have confided in someone, conversed with this person about things that they are dealing with in life. It starts off sooo innocent. The person may feel their significant other or spouse wouldn't understand or would have a hard time, so they confide in someone they usually wouldn't. It doesn't mean they love their S.O. (significant other to keep from having to type it over and over) any less, at first. The grass can start to seem greener on the other side. First it's phone conversations and text messaging, then it's meetings and spending time together. Before you realize it, you may have shared a kiss with that hug. You didn't see it happening but when you are dealing with matters of the heart, you never do. Then you start lying about the person and your s.o. knows better because you have this feeling something is wrong. Sometimes, people fall in love with each other and it was just communication and conversing and nothing else. This person is giving you something that you are feeling you are lacking with your s.o. Your s.o. may not have an idea what is going on with you. They may feel everything is going fine in your relationship or marriage. When they find out, it will hurt them more than if you were sleeping around. It hurts because you have developed an emotional relationship with someone. You may like them more than you should and have feelings for them. I don't know if I've made sense today but I just wanted to tap into this and let someone who know who reads that cheating isn't sexual, but emotional and you can hurt someone more that way. The heart that belongs to your s.o. may belong to someone else now. The things you should have shared with your s.o. were shared with someone else and now your s.o. wasn't given the chance to be there for you. Of course there are people out there who are difficult to handle but I do feel even they deserve an explanation. So, my advice before embarking on a friendship with someone outside of your relationship that possibly your s.o. may be uncomfortable about, i ask you think about the long run. It may seem at the moment nothing could happen, but look at the whole situation and if you can't talk to your s.o. about this person, then you probably shouldn't do it. Consider what you are willing to lose over it from your marriage, your children and your way of life. If it's not worth it, then find a way to talk to your s.o. about the things in which are dealing with in life or consult a therapist about it. Just decide what is important and make that decision.