Do we really know what we want?

A few years ago I had an idea what I wanted in a man. He had to bed dark-skinned, 5'11" or taller, handsome, well-built and well, ya know...lol. If you don't know, use your imagination. I can't really say much has changed. I do still prefer darker guys who are taller than me. He doesn't have to be handsome by the world's standards. What I mean by that is, if he has a wonderful personality, respectful, honest, then I can look past the superficial and see him for the man he is and not based on his looks. It's true, you have to be attracted to that person, but after getting to know them, they could be the best looking man you've ever seen. That may not make sense because I'm not that good at putting some descriptions on paper. I have learned to look past the superficial. Everyone will not meet a man who is rich but you may meet a man who has a job. It may not be the most glamorous job but he is working, he is taking care of himself and his responsibility. I can't knock him for that. I didn't finish college. I wish I had but I have a decent job and I wouldn't want a man to dismiss me because of what I do for a living. We have to be able to look past the superficial once again. Just because you meet a doctor, lawyer or a banker or something doesn't mean they will be perfect for you. They may be the worse person for you ever. AS far as looks and bodies are concerned, I am a plus sized woman. I feel I am beautiful and sexy. Some may not but that is fine. All skinny people aren't beautiful or sexy or healthy. It once again is about that person's personality. There is a guy I know who is totally focused on the look of the person. HE would never look at a plus sized woman because he isn't attracted to them. I can't knock him for his preference but he is limiting himself. I have joked to him that God has a sense of humor ya know and the joke may be on you one day. The woman he falls head over heels in love with may be plus sized. Plus sized starts at about size 12 but I think it's about size 16 and higher. When you meet someone, you can't allow their past to dictate your future. I feel it does depend on their past in some situations. If they have made the decision to change and they have changed you can't hold them responsible. There are things in my past that I would not want anyone to know about and I would hate for someone to use my past to determine if I would be a good mate for them. It isn't fair to me. I feel if a person was abusive to previous mates, then that's something to look long and hard at because you don't know if they have changed. I feel the one thing you have to do is pray. You have to pray for yourself and your future spouse whether you know them now or not. You have to ask God to bring you someone who depends on Him and has faith in Him and loves Him. If they love God, they will love you and wouldn't purposely hurt you. There will be hard times and bad times but as long as God is the center, you can pull through it. Struggles and burdens are what makes us stronger I feel. I feel if a couple can get through something together and not give up, then God will bless them. Of course, I feel God still has to be the center and the focus. I hope I made sense. Sometimes I feel I don't but I try... lol